Molly Neuman of fucking Bratmobile fame was actually introduced to feminism by a former art teacher of hers who was — that’s right people — a black man.

So all of y’all need to shut the hell up because the feminist white women you so fucking idolize would have never become who they were if it weren’t for POC.

I will rain down a fucking monsoon of 100% pure unadulterated haterade on anyone who even thinks otherwise.

Like how it describes a heterosexual relationship as “defying adversity” and how the main couple is supposed to “restore peace” between the girl and boy gangs and says that “even the boys” are scared of Amy AND I WILL BE SO MAD IF STEAMBOTS RUINS THIS SHOW FOR ME BY TURNING AMY INTO A VILLAIN BECAUSE OF HER BLATANT MISANDRY I WILL BE SO FUCKING MAAAADDDDDDD

jefferus:

coelasquid:

i-will-slip:

I read this story and kicked me in the goddamn heart, because I know the scenery; I live in Long Beach. I was under the incredibly false impression that, even if this sort of thing starts to happen, there would be someone willing and able to step in and put a stop to some psychotic fuck screaming “SUCK MY DICK, BITCH!” Now, I’ve realized something.

The point of this story isn’t that men are awful, or that only men can do terrible things. The point is that men (who, generally, have a physical advantage and a more reckless temperament) don’t really get why women are afraid of us. We know that people are victimized, but we don’t feel it. When I walk out my door, down the street, and I pass a man, I think “I could take him,” not as an answer to any question, but as a (possibly false) matter of fact. I know that bad things happen, but never to me, because I’m over six feet tall and weigh over two hundred and sixty pounds. “No one would dare try it,” my physique and naturally fallacious judgement tell me.

Women share none of that comfort. They don’t have the crazy idea that they can fend off anyone who tries to attack them, and they can’t rely on their physique like men think they can. They are forced, by sound logic, to play it safe, because they don’t know if they can trust other people not to hurt them and it isn’t worth gambling their life on it.

You want to change that women are afraid? You can’t. There’s no switch to flip.

The thing I realized after reading UnWinona’s story is that men should not be so trusting. I used to feel this camaraderie because I thought that we men were manly. I thought that we could be offensive and rambunctious, but in the end, we were all noble and honest and that bad people were villains. I knew I was wrong, but I didn’t feel wrong. I was stuck with “can’t happen here,” because I’m here and I don’t see it. I don’t know how I could be so blind. I was stupid.

People, men especially, have to make it clear that intimidation and threats are unacceptable, particularly against people who can’t defend themselves. This isn’t about being male or female; there was a man on that train who couldn’t defend himself, and he was terrified too. The people who act like the three miscreants or the bike man have to be taught that when they try to threaten people who don’t deserve it, they’re standing alone and they’re wrong. They don’t fear women and they think that they can take whoever tries to stop them. They’re just as arrogant as I am, and they’re just as wrong as I was.

I just thought to myself that if I saw this unfold, I would have beaten him to a pulp and taught that guy a lesson. That’s the lie that I’ve told myself that makes me think I can fight some stranger and win. It’s the same lie that the three miscreants and the bike man told themselves before they decided to threaten UnWinona, a person they had never met.

That’s male privilege. Everybody has to do their best to make the people around them feel safe, and saying that everyone should just feel safe the way things are is idiotic. You can’t tell someone to relax while they’re constantly afraid of being attacked. You can only try to help them feel safe by telling them that you’re on their side and doing your best to get as many other people in their corner as you can. Men may be oblivious or in denial, but this story is not about hating men. It’s an explanation of why, even when some girl is doing her best to mind her own business, she’s afraid of the people around her, and she has to deal with this fear every day.

I just wanted to reblog this because I thought it was very well-put.

I think this is the first time someone’s said the words “male privilege” and I haven’t felt like they were belittling me for being male.

How the fuck does someone bringing up the words “male privilege” belittle you?

In fact, the words should do exactly what they are supposed to do — show you that as a man, you are given privileges (THOSE ARE GOOD THINGS BY THE WAY WISH I COULD HAVE SOME OF THOSE) that women are not. By all accounts you should feel pretty damn good because you are automatically treated as a human being, unlike the rest of us ladies over here who have to struggle everyday with dudes like you who try to make every conversation be about them and their problems. Even your guilt is a privilege, because women don’t get to just walk away from a conversation about gender. No woman would ever choose sexism over “male guilt”.

So enjoy it while it lasts and maybe next time someone talks to you about your male privilege you can actually do something productive with it — like be a better fucking person.

Her:

I think you need to keep on topic when we’re having these discussions. Talking about racism is important, but I think it’s more appropriate if we keep that subject separate to make people less uncomfortable.

Me:

Yeah so I decided to pop this baby out since everyone seems to have such a problem with race discussions — why not discussions about gender too? I mean why the fuck not?

Anyway, let’s get this show on the road.

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1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.

“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.

Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”

2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.

“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”

3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.

“There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”

“I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”

4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.

EDIT: The quote below is indeed Dan’s response to Prop 8 and black homophobia, I have added some more of the senseless shit that has spewed out of his mouth so that no one will be confused as to how much of an asshole he is:

“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color…I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.”

EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:

5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.

“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”

6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.

“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”

EDIT: I’ve got a lot of requests for citations, so here they are. They get even worse, believe me — the sexual kink that Savage admonishes the woman for was because he believed it was totally ok for her boyfriend wanting to put his nutsack into her vagina. Because that is a totally unsurprising sexual desire to request for.

TRIGGER WARNING: These articles contain transphobic comments/slurs, victim-blaming, racism, hatred of all kinds and colors

1. Transphobia

2. Biphobia (Here’s another where he basically blames Bisexuals for their own oppression….yeah.)

3. Sexism (kink) / Sexism (victim-blaming)

4. Racism & Prop 8 (Here’s another bullshit article he did on the same topic)

5. Acephobia

6. Fat-shaming (Here’s a rant where he says that Iowa should ban fat marriage instead of banning gay marriage because that totally makes more sense)

I have decided to make a post about the pros and cons of alternative menstrual products, mainly for a friend of mine who has become interested in switching from disposable ones to reusable ones (mostly due to the disgusting moldy tampon debacle). I myself have been using reusable cloth pads for a little over a year and now I can’t imagine having to switch back to all of the discomfort of itchy, plastic pads.

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