1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.

“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.

Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”

2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.

“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”

3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.

“There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”

“I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”

4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.

EDIT: The quote below is indeed Dan’s response to Prop 8 and black homophobia, I have added some more of the senseless shit that has spewed out of his mouth so that no one will be confused as to how much of an asshole he is:

“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color…I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.”

EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:

5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.

“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”

6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.

“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”

EDIT: I’ve got a lot of requests for citations, so here they are. They get even worse, believe me — the sexual kink that Savage admonishes the woman for was because he believed it was totally ok for her boyfriend wanting to put his nutsack into her vagina. Because that is a totally unsurprising sexual desire to request for.

TRIGGER WARNING: These articles contain transphobic comments/slurs, victim-blaming, racism, hatred of all kinds and colors

1. Transphobia

2. Biphobia (Here’s another where he basically blames Bisexuals for their own oppression….yeah.)

3. Sexism (kink) / Sexism (victim-blaming)

4. Racism & Prop 8 (Here’s another bullshit article he did on the same topic)

5. Acephobia

6. Fat-shaming (Here’s a rant where he says that Iowa should ban fat marriage instead of banning gay marriage because that totally makes more sense)

I have decided to make a post about the pros and cons of alternative menstrual products, mainly for a friend of mine who has become interested in switching from disposable ones to reusable ones (mostly due to the disgusting moldy tampon debacle). I myself have been using reusable cloth pads for a little over a year and now I can’t imagine having to switch back to all of the discomfort of itchy, plastic pads.

You know what’s even better than Women’s Suffrage? Women’s Suffrage to the tune of Bad Romance!

The Dinner Party is an installation artwork by feminist artist Judy Chicago depicting place settings for 39 mythical and historical famous women at a triangular table (the Heritage Floor, which rests underneath the table, features the names an additional 999 women inscribed on handmade floor tilings). It was produced from 1974 to 1979 as a collaboration and was first exhibited in 1979. Subsequently, despite art world resistance, it toured to 16 venues in 6 countries on 3 continents to a viewing audience of 1 million. Since 2007 it has been on permanent exhibition at the Brooklyn Museum, New York City, United States of America.

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ikillwhatineed:

I really hate Tumblr feminism. I really do. All I’ve learned so far is that I’m a horrible person for being white and all white men are potential rapists and I’m supposed to sit and listen to Bratmobile and take instagram pictures of my unshaved armpits.

Okay well because you made the effort to write a decent response I feel like I should definitely elaborate more as this is definitely not my perception of all feminists.

For my thesis, I wrote about “Gender In Cinema” which meant I had to thoroughly research feminist film theory which I did and to be honest as much as I agreed with a lot of the points, I can to the conclusion that it was somewhat idealistic and that cinema is something which has become more a commodity and market than an art form so it basically gives the people what they want to see.

Both men and women buy into Scarlett Johansson’s catsuit, if you know what I mean. That was one example of my conclusion of that. Maybe it’s not the indoctrination of patriarchy, maybe women admire her beauty and want to be like her. It’s been like that since the dawn of cinema, just like men want to be the epitome of masculinity like Humphrey Bogart. It’s primal for me rather than “indocrination” and that’s my argument.

As far as “shaming” goes, I think it’s awesome when a girl wants to grow it all out because she feels more comfortable that way. I don’t care what other women do and in fact I think women should embrace the fact that body hair can be seen as a sort of badge of maturity and womanhood, for example porn stars have started to embrace this for example Sasha Grey is not always “bald” and old pictures of Bettie Page where her body hair is perceived as erotic and womanly rather than “untidy” or lazy. If you think what I said was “shaming” think of it another way, maybe if I see a girl going out of her way to show everyone how “non-comformist” she is with her body hair, I feel like I’m being lectured because I choose to shave and I’m “adhering to the standards of beauty solidified by patriarchy”.

I mean, maybe it just feels better to me and I feel like it’s hygienic. In a way, going out of your way to show off something like makes me feel like I’m a “victim” of “patriarchy” and in a sense being shamed myself. Mine is a choice, just like hers and it’s not “men” or Vogue magazine that makes me do it. 

As far as whiteness goes, I am a Northern European Irish girl. My parents came from working class backgrounds and worked very hard all their lives to eventually provide me with clothes on my back, food in my mouth and a roof over my head, along with an education they could never have. From what I have learned by parents/grandparents lives were anything but “privileged”.

The privilege is only in the colour of their skin (guilty of being white) which is something no one should have guilt about and I completely also acknowledge that racism still exists but I cannot accept that through my existence as a white Irish person my existence stands for racism and “Imperialism”.

If you look at the history of my people, this is certainly not the case and I am excluding Irish-Americans from this. I have no guilt for being “privileged” since my ancestors didn’t have it and I am can appreciate I am lucky to have it since they didn’t. I can’t fight for the world and I feel like trying to put yourself up there as the “good whitey” is patronising and insincere since I know nothing about living in a third world country and it’s why the Kony 2012 bullshit was extremely offensive to me. One example. It comes across as self gratifying. 

As far as trauma goes and “triggering”, I understand that Post-Traumatic Stress is an awful thing for anyone to experience and completely exists and I am not unsympathetic to anyone who suffers from it. For me personally, I have experienced trauma, I have experienced depression and anxiety but I feel like I can’t shut myself away from bad things I see even if they remind me of my past. I am lucky enough never to have experienced a family member to be murdered in from of me, which has happened during atrocities all across history, The Holocaust, The Rwandan Genocide. To me, these are things I feel I am lucky in my situation/country/generation never to have experienced so instead of dwelling on my own problems and treating them as best I can, I try and learn as much as I can about devastating trauma that generations will never get over and try and pluck up as much courage to live as I can. The world is an uncaring, cruel, unjust place and I try my best to be as understanding, tolerant and listen more than I talk as much as possible. That’s where I stand. Feminism can’t save the world. All movements/religions/philosophies are flawed. I just want to be a good person because I am only one of billions. Human beings are tiny and weak and we’re fundamentally similar and that’s what I believe.

That’s where I stand at the moment. I believe in always learning and never falling into one slot and become indeed “indoctrinated” and closed minded. 

I sort of feel like your mind is made up and there’s really nothing I can say to change it, since I explained my perspective already and we’ve met no middle ground. I’ll leave this here so that other folks can read your response, so you can be heard on the issue, and so other can take up the argument if they see fit. As I said, I’ve stated my position, and it’s clear you’ve come to conclusions that aren’t going to be moved by my words. 

I’m just going to leave this image (this highly circulated image by the way) here because it pretty much sums up everything I would have said anyway about the initial comment about tumblr feminism:

I have no idea what part of tumblr you stumbled upon, because I sincerely feel like if not for tumblr I wouldn’t feel so strongly for feminist issues at all. In fact, I believe that the wonderful feminists I have followed/stumbled upon on this site have made me a better feminist, because I have been subjected to a variety of different people’s opinions and stories.

Because when you’re talking about the concept of racism and various other forms of oppression there’s literally no way that someone is going to come out of the conversation unhurt. Prejudice is messy, and hateful, and seemingly infinite, and it’s completely natural for people to get defensive about it when they feel personally attacked — because when is it not personal? All you can pretty much do is sit back and listen and try to learn from those who suffer from it so that you can try to understand where they’re coming from.

And only then can you actually get up and do something about it.

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For anyone who only sees gender and sex in black and white, here’s proof by the lovely humon that nature is just as fluid with representations of gender and sex as we are.

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[…] Seriously I thought sexism was a thing of the past.

I really wasn’t going to do this today.

I was pretty busy all morning doing errands and I was content with just celebrating that they finally allowed a transwoman to enter the Ms. Universe pageant and decidedly not thinking about the ugly comments made in my English class this morning but all of a sudden this pops up on my dash and suddenly I am in tears.

Because you know deep down that these kind of people exist, that there are people out there that actually think that sexism is a “thing of the past”, that there are men who think that Daisy Miller in Henry James’ novel was a prude because she led men on with her “sexual wiles” and there are women who actually think she deserved what she got for putting herself in situations and not caring about what people thought about her and I forgot how the people I surrounded myself with were really just this huge wall that I raised to shield myself from these kinds of people.

And I am so very, very tired.

I am so tired of dealing with this bullshit day in and day out, I am so tired of repeating the same things over and over, I am just so goddamn tired of falling, and falling, and falling, only to have to pick myself up all over again.

But I know that later on all that’s going to happen is that I’m going to treat myself to a warm baked good and some coffee after I have a good cry before going back to work because the thought of actually stopping, of giving up for good and letting them pound me into submission scares the fuck out of me.

One day it will probably happen, but until then I’ll be here blogging, until then I’ll be here talking/shouting/preaching, until then I’ll be here fighting.

Because, to quote Sarah McCarry, “until then: whatever it takes and fucking fight”.